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Seeing someone you cared for with someone new can be heartbreaking, and it is understandable to be angry or feel some sort of hatred. You may want to punch walls, rip your room to shreds, quit school or your job, and go on an isolation frenzy where you detach from anyone and everyone who dare enter your path.

It is okay be feel whatever emotions make their way to your surface. Find other ways to express yourself. Be creative by writing, painting or trying a new artistic form. Exercise your body by taking a class or watching some YouTube videos of easy workouts you can do from home. When you devote time and effort to someone, it is okay to be sad when they move on and give to someone else want you possibly wanted.

But instead of destroying everything around you, you may feel the need to cry alone in your room with a pint of your favorite ice cream. You can hide away if need be, but it is important to know that you will have to come out eventually. Get out of the house or dorm every once in a while. Even just going for a walk or changing your scenery will help.

Dedicate some time to make sure you are not alone. Even after the breakup we still communicate as he always wants to be friends. After a month I felt tired and all I know was that he finally found someone else. I didnt contact him for almost a month but now he is coming back to mylife again saying that he misses me still. Now i am confused if this guy is even worth loving for after all what he did or is he just trying to fool me around again knowing how much I loved him so hes taking an advantage?

It could be either reasons. You know him better than anyone else. I would suggest that if he could walk away once over lack of physical contact, as long as nothing changes aka you moving to be with him or vice versa , it could easily happen a second time. Be fair to yourself and think this through on whether it's worth it. I broke up with my girlfriend in August, after dating for 7 months. She pleaded to have me back shortly in September, and after thinking about it for awhile, I regretted it and wanted her back.

It's normal that people seek comfort in others when they're upset, which is why rebounds exist in the first place. Right now she may be feeling conflicted as opposed to directly jumping into the rebound because you're still in the picture and on relatively good terms with her.

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If you're certain that you can make the relationship work and not go back into the same cycle as before, I don't think you should treat the guy as a rebound where you have to back off and not interfere but rather as fair competition where you're trying to win her heart once again. Three months ago, my exboyfriend and I broke up. We were together for a year in a long distance relationship. I don't even know who broke up with who. I was feeling unloved and I told him. I thought we would try to work things out. However, he took it as if I was saying he was wrong or that it wasn't working.

He said he was going to answer me but he didn't. After some texts and after time of not talking, he suddenly met someone else when he was travelling. Everything between them went so fast. He wrote about having a soul connection and about true love in a few days after meeting each other. I saw their interaction through social media and I could see how fast everything has been moving between them with me everything went pretty slow and it took him forever to tell me he loved me and things like that. She is nothing like me, she is totally different both physically and in interests.

She is almost 20 years younger than him. I feel they are really into each other and I am sad because I thought he would think things through and get back together. The confusing part is that after he came back from his trip and of meeting her , he started texting me. We talked and he seemed to be sad.

He told me "I have been ok" instead of great as he looks on his pictures. He has been texting me, to say nothing important. I don't understand why. Is it because he felt guilty? Is he trying to be friends? Also, after we talked for the first time in a long time, I posted a picture with a guy I met. I didn't have any intentions of doing so, but that day he sent me a super friendly text.

I don't know if it was because now it seems that each one of us moved one or could it be that he is still interested? Why does he want to start and keep talking? He could be confused and undecided on what he wants at the moment, and the other girl could be a rebound that sparked while he was trying to cope with your 'breakup' seeing how you said that she was nothing like you. It could be that he keeps wanting to talk to you so as to not let you go, since his spark with the rebound may have been a holiday romance.

Hi, so i was dating this girl for about 2 years and we loved each other very much. We spent everyday we could together. I slipped up and cheated on her with another girl. I then told her about what had happened and she became super angry and slept with a guy to hurt me. She told me right after she did it to make sure i felt the pain.

I obviously want her back because I acknowledged my mistake but now she does not want to talk to me. She is now with the same dude and is posting alot about him on social media for me to see. I want to commit to fixing our relationship but understand that she is not in the best state of mind to talk. I'm going to start no contact for at least 45 days and see what happens. I'm pretty sure she still loves me and is just rebounding. Any suggestions or concerns i should be worried about?

At the moment, leave her be no matter how painful it may be to see them together and during this NC period, spend time focusing and improving yourself as a person. Give her that space to calm down and let her relationship with the guy fade out before coming back. Thanks Ryan, I will follow what you have instructed. So say i do NC and i message her and shes still upset with me, is there anything i can do? Also, I have a strong belief that she is scared to come back to me because of how bad i hurt her.

Im pretty sure this girl is my soulmate. If you're really sure that she's your soulmate and you're willing to wait, if after you apply NC and she is still upset with you, that means that it may be still too soon and you have to give her even more time, continuing with NC for as long as necessary. Hey Ryan, I just wanted to clarify that if my ex is still with her rebound after my 45 no contact period, that i should still not contact her until the other guy is gone?

Also, do you have any other tips on what to do in the time being. Well, it would be better not to, although if she contacts you first, perhaps you could always start off as friends. In the meantime, focus on improving yourself as a person. Take up a new hobby, get a climb on your career, go out with friends, even date around again. The last thing you want is to be caught still stuck at the same place down the road when she's moved way ahead of you. Thanks Ryan, I have moved on and I have been hanging out with other women.

I don't believe my ex has moved very far ahead due to the fact that she never really dealt with our breakup rebound. It's frustrating to watch her make a fool out of herself with this new guy, her friends and others all question why she is still with him. Hi Joe, unfortunately it's hard for you to do that without coming across as desperate and wanting her back. If you're on talking terms with her, you can always advise and tell her to be cautious of the relationship but I wouldn't do more than that.

She was the one to break off the relationship. Although, I was devastated and tried convincing we can make things work, I came to a point that of not replying to her because she was blabbering non-sence in her final set of msgs. I went to a NC, and after 2 months she contacts me again. I took it slow and talked with her. And understood that she is showing interest. However, after a while she went cold again. The same happened again twice within a period of 4 months.

This was taking me through an emotional rollercoaster. But however, I went NC again. About a month ago, she send me a msg again asking how I am. I started to talk to her, she was really nice and comforting but with time she went cold again. Unfortunately, I became a bit needy this time around.

But recently I've heard that she seeing a guy. I'm hearing that she rushing into progress with the new guy. So what I your advice on this to me. I suggest you leave them be and continue with NC indefinitely. If she's in a rebound, she will eventually break up with the guy and the rushing into things may be a way to compensate for any negative emotions she might feel against you.

The whole point of going into NC is to allow you to recover from any emotional hurt you might have faced as well as improve yourself.

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It's hard to do that if she keeps coming back to you but leaving you short each time. Even if you want her back, you should be at a point where you're okay if she's back in your life, but also okay if she's not before trying for anything again. Thanks Ryan, Appreciate the fact that you had time to respond to me. Could I ask you why she's showing this kind of behaviour even though its been like 9 months since the break up?

There may still be underlying feelings of resentment towards you regarding the overall negative emotions she felt during the relationship, but it's only speculation on my part. If you really want to know for certain, the only way is to actually ask her about it. That just hurt me really bad so i told him, "is that really the reason why? Well at the moment, there isn't much you can do because of it's never right to break a relationship up.

If they're together, and has resorted to even blocking you on social media platforms, then it would better for the time being that you also move on. In the future if he ever breaks up with her and you still want him back, then perhaps you could try again but right now, I suggest applying the no contact rule. My girlfriend and I broke up in July, she was having some family issues, she gave me the reason that she wasn't good for me, that was why the breakup happened, so she isn't going to hurt me.

I followed the NC rule for 3 weeks, everything seemed to be working, she said she wanted us back, but she needed time. In October, she started dating someone. I'm about to follow the NC rule for second time, hoping it will work. If she says that she wants you back but got together with someone else, perhaps you could try to understand why it happened. Yes, apply NC again and don't interfere with their relationship and if it's a rebound, she will break it off eventually. However, you shouldn't stay in one place for this period either not moving on and at least spend this time focusing on yourself by doing things like going out with your friends, perhaps even date again, and when the next opportunity presents itself if it does , at least you'll be emotionally prepared for it.

Hello, I've noticed my situation maybe a little more entangled then some. My boyfriend and I have live together sharing a house for almost nine years. He suffers from bipolar disorder and has recently been going through Cycles very quickly.

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He had met a woman on a singles website that he became friends with. Whenever he was feeling less than adequate or he and I were arguing he would go to that woman for validation that he's a great person and he's right. A long story short, we've been going through some very trying times and even the loss of a child. He is what I call a chronic Runner, always running from his problems and never facing hard feelings and emotions. About six weeks ago we got into a terrible argument. He packed his things and he moved in with this woman. I still live in our home and we still communicate pretty much every day.

He states that they are in a relationship because he feels he needs to stay at her house and he doesn't want to rock the boat.

He says he wants his own place and is looking for a townhome. He is very interested in what I'm doing and my well being. He has told me numerous times that he is still very much in love with me and that he does not love her at all.

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He likes her and appreciates the things that she does for him like allowing him to stay in her home. He lies to her and comes over here and we'd even slept together. Both of us are grown he is almost 50 and I am Neither of us want to hurt anybody but I would love to work things out with him. Do we know contact is not going to work for us because as I stated we share a home together and most of his belongings are still here. I will not prevent him from coming to his own house or even make that suggestion. It could be cause to feel paranoia that exist from his bipolar disorder. Any advice you can provide would be greatly appreciated.

He's extremely concerned that I might start dating and fall in love with someone. I've explained that I'm just not ready for this. He feels a lot of regret that he is living with somebody else but at the same time he knows he does not want to live in this house whether I were here or not. What steps do I take at this juncture?

We are both very much in love with each other and he even mentioned that he thought perhaps this was just a break that we need but in my mind it's not doing anything to deal with the issues we had. Thank you for your time and I hope to hear back. Since no contact and asking him to move out is out of the question, perhaps at a later given date when everyone has more or less calmed down from the situation, sit down and have a talk with him regarding the issues you guys faced and how you can work together to solve them.

More importantly, he definitely has to let go of the other woman if you guys want the relationship to work since that will only serve as a constant obstacle and something for him to run to every time an issues arises. Hey Kelvin I was with in relationship for almost 2 years. Everytime she given me a chance result was the same We fought And always I break her. Now finally she decided to end up the things on 18 Oct from 18 Oct to 21st Oct she was thinking why she has done this But I called her everytime she said she want some space and time still I called her Now she is just irritated with me On 23rd I said that I will not call you Now what I will do Does she will really miss me.

I suggest you give her the space she wants and don't apply too much pressure on her. You've been together for two years and there's a chance she still loves and misses you but let her be the one to say she's ready. And if you do get back together, please work on your recurring issues to make sure the relationship lasts this time. Dear Mr kevin please help me out, I have had been dating a girl for 5 months, she even told me that she will get married to someone else because she is a Muslim, for some time she got confused between me and him, but eventually decided to end with me after seeing my conversation on FB with my exes, I did not tell her about my past casual relationships, though I really am serious for her and think she is the last girl in my life.

I don't know what to do, but I really think I can't live without her, as far as no contact is concerned, I fear she might get engaged in a month, which she planned to postpone few weeks ago. She did ask me to live happily n let her go for her happiness before things got worse between us,the guy she's gonna marry is also professionally senior to me.

I told her I rely love her and will wait for her forever but she's says she doesn't gives a damn n would never trust me coz I have been in many relationships before, moreover my ex did also call in front of her for no reason n she even doubted that. I really love her, please help me. She even told me she is not going to cheat him by even talking to me or else he will be shattered n he left his girlfriend to marry her,things are all complicated.

Right now, by going back to her, you're going to come across as needy and desperate and this will push her further away. If she is indeed planning to get married, your best bet would be to focus on recovery and working on yourself. If she really loves you, she will come back eventually but it isn't something you should pressure her into because that doesn't work. I suggest applying the no contact rule in order to give yourself some distance from the situation and this might help you gain a fresh perspective.

My bf and I were together for 1. We were really good together and had great chemistry. Two weeks ago though he break up with me because he said that he's not in love with me anymore.. On September I had to move out of town and the plan was that we were gonna be in a LDR for this year. By the beginning of June we were gonna live together. We were in our first month of LDR when he realised that he loves me but is not in love with me.

It shocked me to hear that and after a lot of talking he finally admitted that he felt an attraction for another girl.. I knew her and I can guarantee you that there was nothing going on between the two of them before I left. Actually we were crazy in love while I was still there. I'm sure about that. Anyway, I accepted what he said.

I even told him that I would block him on fb cause it wound be to painful for me to see him with her. He said he understands. He did asked me to be friends but I said no. Eventually we said our goodbyes and I haven't contacted him ever since. I've stuck to the no contact rule. And then he posed a pic of his with her as his new gf. And of course he didn't do it on fb. No, he posted it on Instagram. Now I just unfollowed him on Instagram, because 1 he hadn't posted anything at all. He had 0 posts and never really cared about it and 2 because he told me that he would delete the account. So I didn't thought it was necessary to block him there too.

So imagine my surprise when my friend showed me that pic. Another thing I have to nention is that on fb we had no common friends. But on Instagram my friends follow him, and so does some of my family members.. So there was no way that I woudn't found out about his first post. And it was really out of his character!

He never uploaded pic of us. And we were together for so long I know it sounds crazy but I fell that he did it on purpose. Like he is angry at me because I haven't contacted him ever since the break up and wants to hurt me now or something.. Perhaps in situations like these, it would be best to actually ask him so as to not leave yourself jumping to conclusions?

It may be likely he is currently going through a rebound which you can read up more here Long distance can be hard and if he can't be honest with you, it will also be very hard to initiate anything or progress. First complete the no contact period to give yourself some space. Kevin, my ex cheated on me then dumped me for this person. They have only been dating for a month but already she says that she feels he is the one. Yet she said that she still feels that way about me.

After reading this, the signs point to this being a rebound and that's somewhat comforting. She's rubbed him in my face, she's staying with him. This person is the total opposite of me in every way. Recently she told me that we should be friends at first and slowly work towards getting back together. I agreed to it, as long as we get back together.

She already knows I want to. I want to believe there's hope but she hasn't messaged me in days. Do I do the no-contact routine again or what?


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If you have not done no contact till now, then you absolutely must do it for at least two months. She cheated on you which is a huge betrayal of trust. Even if you get back together, it will be hard for you to trust her again. Right now, you just want her back out of desperation and fear of losing her forever. These are not good reasons to get back together. Take your time and think things through.

By doing no contact, you will also show her that you are not desperate to get back with her, which is going to make her more attractive to you. It might even make her think about her actions and regret what she did. I was dating my collegue for about a year i felt like he was pulling away and things were changing.

So i went onto no contact with him. He tried reaching out to me after 10days but I did not reply him. After my no contact was over I tried messging him with a nice memory we shared it did not show any needeness or any sign that I want him back. But there was no reply from him. I waited for another 5 days and sent him a text still no reply. Why is he not responding?

Did he loose intrest in me? Is he so mad at me that he is not reafy to speak with him at all? What should I do now? Yes, it does seem like he is mad. You should do no contact again for a couple of weeks. The next time you contact him, don't send a nice memory or a casual text. Instead, use a serious text. Something like the elephant in the room text mentioned in this article.

My ex broke me up a month ago now but we still keep in touch. We were so happy before and all of the sudden he found another girl. I know him he cant live with only one woman. I lived with him for many months and I took care of him like we were a couple. Yes what he did was very humiliating, insulting and embarrasing. The lovely things he said to me before now after meeting the girl was totally opposite. He knows I love him so much.

Lately, he said to me that the girl is a total opposite of me. But I dont believe him because he keeps lying to me. He wants to still keep in touch of me but I am not getting any affection from him anymore.

One time he asked me if I still like him or love him. I dont feel the respect anymore. Even if he said I am better than the other girl but they still keep seeing each other. I am now trying not to contact him. I kbnow I want him back and I know how unstable he is emotionally. What will I do? I was seeing this guy for 14 months. I love him and I know he loves me. Our plan was to move in together at the end of summer. During our relationship he would get mad over simple things and tell me that our relationship wouldnt work but he always came back. This time he left and immediately started seeing some one less than two weeks later.

I never contacted him at all and on Mothers Day he texted me. He says only to see if I had a good day. Of course the texting turned into my telling him that I loved him and wanted to be together. I was always very open and honest to him about my life and everything going on but he never truly opened up to me about anything. Now he is saying I always kept him at arms length which is so untrue. He is still seeing this other girl. It is close to a month that we broke up He always broke up with me thru text messages never face to face. I havent texted him since sunday and it is now wednesday and he has texted me twice Kevin, got out of a drastic relationship after 5 years in December Jan met this girl but I was heartbroken.

Kept her on hold for two years and now she dumped me the day I declared. Follow the 5 step plan. No one can say for sure if you have a chance or not, but if you think she is worth it, you should definitely try. Good day, I have stumbled upon this site looking for answers. I was in a Long Distance Relationship with the most wonderful Girl recently, we talked and saw each other for about a year, but due to Life, it slowed down. Then out of the blue, she said she wasn't ready for it, which we were going as slow as we could. So I drove Five hours out of my way to find out what was happening and as it turns out she has found herself a new guy, who just "kinda showed up", and that she doesn't want to talk to me or even be my Friend, because she doesn't want to hurt us anymore than what she has.

I really don't know what to do or think. I've looked at your Five Steps to Breakups and don't know. I don't even want to talk to her, but I want her back and things just seem to fall apart without her. If you get the time to read through this, please, reply, I need help. I am sorry you are going through this breakup. I recommend you follow the Ex Back Permanently Plan.

Me and my boyfriend got together at 18 and in a relationship for 2 and a half years before he broke up with me two months ago very suddenly, we were very happy so i wasn't expecting it. He told me his reasons were because he's not enjoying work hes feeling low and just cant be in a relationship right now. We saw eachother a few times after the break up just so i could ask some questions but when we met it was so nice we just caught up with eachother and had a laugh. Ive been using nc now for about 2 weeks. But it looks like he might be seeing someone hes know her his whole life, they breifly dated when they were 13 and have mutual friends and work near eachother im now questioning his reasons for the break up and if he actually rekindled with her or they started to talk after the break up.

Is there any chance this could be a rebound? And do i have a chance of winning him back over? I feel like hes over me and moved on. If they just briefly dated when he was 13, then there's a good chance it's a rebound. You do have a chance of getting him back. But you should still do no contact and learn to be happy without him before trying.

I was her rebound guy Now she is in new relationship She broke my heart in peaces And now 4 months later im still in shit and she is in love with him Oh Heck noooooo, If she's in a relantionship and having sex with some whatever, move on, leave, get yourself a nicer one, there are better ones believe me, let her keep on rebounding for the rest of her life then.

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Kevin, Ive done everything wrong, I really wish I had read your article a month ago. When I found out my ex was in a new relationship I was still struggling with the breakup. I got drunk and I sent very angry messages to both of them. I was so upset, I didnt play it cool at all. Im pretty sure from what Ive read here that Ive only pushed her further into his arms. Is there any coming back from this?

Im one week into No Contact now, but i think im going to have to wait at least 2 months. My ex gf broke up with me at the end of November and found out she was on Match a month later. We started talking very briefly via texts a month ago and she'd respond to my texts but never initiated. I tried asking her to get together to catch up but she said she doesn't think that's a good idea yet because she's currently happy with someone else. I didn't get upset or show jealousy just told her ok and to remember if she needs an ear I'm here for her.

Now I've decided to not contact anymore. My question, if this is a rebound is better to not interfere or to keep in touch with her during? Many conflicting advice online, one source claims I need to keep in touch so she develops a stronger emotional bond with me before her new guy can. If she is cold towards you, you should do no contact for a while and let her initial honeymoon period get over. If she is not cold towards you and you have already done no contact, then you can stay in touch with her. How would I know when the honeymoon phase is over to contact again?

When I had suggested getting together to catch up and she said it wasn't a good idea yet I told her no problem don't be shy to suggest it sometime. Should I just not contact at all until she does? It usually takes a month or two. I'd suggest you do wait at least one month. If she doesn't contact you, then you should contact her. Hi Kevin My ex and I were daing for 7 months. Had a wonderful summer together.

But there were a lot of problems throughout our relationship. He is a very needy guy and very jealous guy. He broke up with me cuz I hurt him about things that he's exaggerated about and jumping to conclusions and a lot of miscommunication. Towards the end, he contacted me after we broke up wanting to see me and messing with my head. Like he didn't want to work things out but he didn't wanna let go either.

I couldn't take it anymore, I blocked him out of my life. I had too in order for me to move on. I was in shock and it hurt me so much!!! I ran into him at a bar, he was with friends, didn't see his new girl with him at all. One of his friends said he saw me and left cuz he didn't want me to be uncomfortable.

That just hurt more! I read about rebound relationships, is he in one? I felt more Luke I may have been a rebound from his last relationship. That ended 6 months before we started dating. He's had feelings for me for 2 years before we got together, but he was rushing the relationship when I wanted to take things slow. My questions are, is he rebounding with the new girl? Or was I a rebound as well? Its been almost 3 months since we broke up and I am doing the no contact He is probably in a rebound.


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I don't think you were a rebound since he took 6 months after his last relationship to begin a relationship with you. Regardless of that, your best course of action is to follow the 5 step plan. I've done the 5 step plan. I guess its gonna take 6 months for the no contact. And Im too scared to write him that letter, especially when he's with someone else. Our anniversary is may 3.

He made a big deal about our anniversary. We hooked up at a big 80s bash that happens every year. He won that contest. The same bash is happening in April. When I looked at the info about it online, his pic was right there. I started to cry. Stubbornly, i was casually dating someone else and i could see them be friends had an ex is a real-life transformer, and. In fact, my ex dating someone else. Page 3 years ago, while on. Signs that if the other, but it mean when you can move on with an ex might think it can do?

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