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Not all of the guys you meet are going to be a good match. Some guys are just outright scary. It is easy to see why they are dating online because if they approached an actual woman in person and used one of their cheesy online dating pickup lines, they would get slapped in the face. Don't get me wrong, I am not discouraging anyone from using online dating sites. I am just saying there are some types of dudes that appear on every website. And guys, yes, I know there are some weird women approaching you on online dating sites, too.
By all means, please write your own hub about it. I really do want to hear all about it from a male's perspective. For now, let's discuss guys using online dating sites from the female perspective. On every dating site, there is a super creepy guy lurking about. On some sites, there are numerous freakish looking dudes roaming around all over the site. You know who I am talking about. These are the guys that look like they've just killed a kitten or they have a dead body buried under their house.
Often, their photo looks like a mugshot. It can go a long way making that mugshot photo look semi-friendly. Sometimes the photo is a sad webcam photo. The guy is alone, just sitting usually shirtless in the basement. It is sad, but no one is going to respond to that. Yes, that dude might be a serial killer. Oh, Foot Fetish Guy, you are everywhere on the internet. No matter what site you use for online dating, there is always a Foot Fetish Guy.
He likes to talk about feet in his profile. He offers to massage your feet if he meets up with you. Sometimes, you might even find a dude that offers you some cash to send photos of your feet. Yes, this has happened to me before. No, I did not take him up on the offer. The bottom line is, Foot Fetish Guy needs love, too. Somewhere out there, there is Foot Fetish Gal, and she is going to be more than happy to meet up with him. So wherever the foot fetish folks are, more power to you. I hope you find each other and marry someday.
OK, this is a touchy subject. Let's not kid ourselves about this one.
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I love gay guys as much as the next girl, maybe more, but I can't date a gay guy. I can go shopping, guy hunting, and to the gym with a gay guy, but dating is not going to happen. He posts things on his profile about how much he enjoys shopping, manicures, and makeup, but he claims he is not gay. I am pretty open-minded and even went out with a guy like this in the past.
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He was totally, obviously gay! While he ate his delicate salad at dinner, he said things like, "You go, girl! Huggy is a guy that is seen frequently on all dating sites. Huggy wants everyone to know he is affectionate and friendly. He proves this by posting plenty of photos of him hugging everyone he knows. Huggy is often seen hugging his mom, his sister, his female friends, and perhaps even his ex-girlfriend or some chicks he just met at the bar. The problem is, Mr. Huggy's plan backfires with all these photos. Women do not see him as affectionate.
Instead he is viewed more as "a ladies man" with these photos. You see, to all you overly affectionate huggy guys out there, when a woman sees that practically every photo on your page features you hugging some other woman, she really doesn't care who you are hugging. You look like the guy that can't keep your hands off other women.
I don't care if it states in fine print, "this is my cousin. I could be totally wrong, but we won't ever get a chance to find out. Feeling the need to post photos like that says something about you. You are trying to create an image that you are surrounded by other women all the time. Furthermore, if you are the type of guy that likes to pose with your "bros" while you are at a bar, those photos are not doing you much justice either.
Basically, that tells me you hang out with dudes at the bar all the time. Where will I fit in? Also, most of the time when I see a photo with a group of guys, I don't even know which dude is posting the photo. Who are you in the bunch? What is going on? Even if a guy points out which guy he is in the group, most of the time, his friends are better looking. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to message a guy back and say, "I am not interested in you, but your friend is super hot in your third photo.
Gamer Guy has been sitting in the basement and playing video games for too long. Now, Gamer Guy is looking for a chick that might also like to hangout in the basement and play Warhammer online all day long.
Sadly, Gamer Guy is not really into going out on a date or anything that would actually involve physically leaving his computer, but he is more than happy to open the door and let a lady in Oh, Gamer Guy, your sad existence is a total bummer. I hope one day you find that lady of your dreams, but maybe, just maybe, leaving the computer to take a shower and actually going outdoors to show up for a date will increase your chances of success. Football Jersey Guy is the type of guy that pops up around September or October on all the dating websites.
There are also plenty of guys that join these sites in the spring as normal dudes, but turn into Football Jersey Guy in the fall. Basically, Football Jersey Guy is the fellow that is wearing a team's football jersey in most of his profile photos. His overwhelming love for his favorite football teams forces him to wear a jersey in too many photos.
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I have to be honest with you, guys - unless you actually play for a real football team and you are wearing your actual football jersey, your attire does not impress the ladies. Most of us don't mind one photo or two with a guy wearing a football jersey, but if 4 out of 5 of your photos shows you wearing your football jersey, it is kind of a turnoff. Honestly, a football jersey is really not that flattering.
If you are wearing a jersey, sitting on the couch, and drinking a beer in your photo, it is actually really sad. If you want to really impress the chicks, go outside and have a friend take a picture of you running with a football or something.
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At least that shows us you don't spend every waking moment screaming at the TV during football season. Posing with your sports memorabilia does not help you either. Can you say obsession? Unfortunately, many guys that use online dating sites can fall into the Overly Aggressive Guy category. For some reason, guys that are using online dating sites believe they are on a tight schedule and meeting women as fast as possible is the goal. Let me give you a piece of advice guys: You can't just say, "I want that one," and add a woman to your shopping cart. You need to actually email her and not creep her out in the process.
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Overly Aggressive Guy gets upset when he sends an email, but a woman does not respond to it within 24 hours. For some reason, Overly Aggressive Guy gets extremely frustrated if he gives you his phone number and you do not respond immediately. Sometimes a nasty, angry email will follow insisting on reasons why a phone call never occurred. Can anyone say, "anger management"?
Time to push the "block" button on the bottom of his profile. Now that I've probably angered some overly aggressive men out there, it is time for me to leave the scene. After all, it is going to take some time for me to weed through all the angry responses I will get from this. And once again guys, please remember I would love to hear your stories as well. I look forward to reading it. To comment on this article, you must sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Fairly attractive, keeps in shape, decent job, nice home asks one women out two years ago he met online, she was nice we had a nice dinner at a ridiculously expensive restaurant and seemed to get along ok.
At the end of the date she kissed me and said that she liked me but she wasn't ready to date anyone and the whole thing was a mistake and that she was married with a child. I am glad you enjoyed it. I swear I think I dated a guy once that was a serial killer. He creeped me out so much, I actually had to make up an excuse and run away from the date. I am pretty sure there are bodies buried in that guy's backyard. Glad I got away from him! This had me laughing at times, but in the end it's all very true. I think I have come across almost every type of guy you listed while online dating.
There's always that thought in the back of your mind like "I hope he's not a serial killer" lol. Luckily, none of my dates were otherwise I wouldn't be here to talk about it. A-ha, it was probably best to wait then. Sometimes things just work out best the longer you wait, I suppose. Well, We waited because 1. She was 16 legal in the UK where she is from and was when we met, and 2. I was still living at home. I do agree that after the first day is too quick. However, I would also personally not wait 2 years either.
If that worked for you, that is cool. I usually talked online for at least a few days or longer. Thanks for your comment and have a good day! How could you want to meet someone in person so fast, i had a gal ask me on the first day, and i dropped her and never spoke to her again. I met my wife on line and didn't mention meeting for two years Maybe meeting to soon is the problem. Don't push you never know.
I once talked to a guy online for several weeks and never met him. No matter how much I brought up the subject of meeting, he changed the subject. Funny thing is, he worked right down the block from me. It would have been easy to meet during a lunch break or after work. I had to give up on him! For all I know, I was talking to your brother! My brother is not a gamer, but he's active with on-line dating with no intention of actually going on a real live date.
It's way too messed up for me to decipher, but I'm sure he's not the only one. I think it's like belonging to Weight Watchers but not following their diet plan; you're a little in but not really. I want women to know about these guys like my brother. If the guy doesn't want to get together in the first couple of weeks, don't waste any more time and move to the next! The ones that don't even know your name but already love you, or is that just with that those creepers decide that they love me for life and want to marry me after a few minutes?
Sorry you feel that way about online dating sites. You certainly have the right to your opinion. I actually never had to approach any men online I was approached all the time by men, which is how I was able to write this hub. Good luck at the bars! Online dating is definitely mostly for chicks on the rebound, attention whores and women with low self-esteem. That's why it's usually a last resort to dating.
I learned it was better to let women hit me up online and I not message them at all. When I get messaged by women, they never say anything clever or funny, it's mostly just questions because without they're body or looks sadly women have little charm, or at least the ones I've dated which is a lot. Every possible greeting has been thought of so women don't understand that a simple greeting doesn't mean I'm like the last guy that gave you a simple greeting, that's why women tend to get weird shit messaged to them because we are trying not to be like the other hundred hellos you just received.
Same with the like button, but I thought she really liked my so if I see online hell yeah I'm gonna hit her up. We like the same things according to the matched profiles so this should right, wrong. Hello, barely works in any type of way, introductions barely work, short or long, I've actually had my success at saying the most vulgar shit, getting cursed out then apologizing and saying that it was just a joke to make you smile.
I'll stick to bars and clubs where an answer to a question doesn't take hours from someone who"likes" me lol. Goodluck fishing gentlemen cause you are gonna need it to find a decent chick on these sites. Some men have a lot of nerve. I can't believe how some guys behave on those sites. I wonder if the reasoning behind it is something like, "if she does not like me yet, she will love me when I insult her. I just bit the bullet with a dating website again and got to experience my very first Overly Aggressive Guy, who proceeded to insult me by implying that I was only out for dick pics, then when I sent my message to an earlier comment I hadn't had the pleasure of reading the dick message yet he decided to send me his phone number and mentioned that I should contact him, though he thought I was acting like I thought I was too good for him.
Like, ignoring you was a sign, dude. Oh and he pulled the: For all the ladies out there--hope it's true. But I sincerely doubt it! Thanks so much for the votes and for checking out my hub.
I am always shocked at how many men post terrible photos on their profile in this day and age. I mean, just about everyone has a digital camera or a camera on their phone. There is no reason for such terrible photos! And yes, the guys that mention sex right off the bat are pretty special, but according to some of my male friends, there are women out there that are happy to respond to just that. I like that you've made this article unique, in part, because you've given funny names to the various online crazies out there. You are so right in saying that some men's pictures resemble mug shots.
It's just so weird that anyone would post an ugly photos like that. I mean, really-- how can a man not understand that a picture needs to look pleasant, inviting and, well And don't you just hate it when guys online say how one of the most important things to them is Sex. Like women don't already know that about men.
But at least with a guy like that, he's pretty much given you the information you need to press Delete and not waste another minute of your time. Levertis Steele - I have heard of those online relationships. There are too many dishonest people out there. I was not sure how to categorize the total fakes that are lying about their gender, so I just kept that out of the hub, but you are so right.
They are definitely out there. Thanks for your comment. I am glad you liked the hub, and yes, unfortunately most of it is totally happening on dating sites on any given day. This is so true, but some of these guys--women too--are crafty enough to put on sheep's clothing in order to land their catch.
How about the lonely gay guys and girls who pretend that they are the opposite sex in order to have an online affair with straight people? Some have even had the nerve to meet their "honey" with hopes of being accepted. Imagine what this does to a masculine macho who has fallen head-over-heels in love. I sympathize with the single guys and gals who get fooled, but the married ones who are computer creeps--LOL! We've been together for almost a year I am glad I got to experience it for a while though. Thanks for your comment! Online dating is definitely an adventure.
Thanks for visiting my hub! This is a super article! While my online dating occurred in there are some very similar situations. I met two wonderful men and one creepy guy. So, be cautious everyone! Sadly I never got to experience online dating, but it sounds like you have covered every type of guy out there. I met my boyfriend online! I was quite lucky in that. He turned out to be really nice in real life, plus we share almost the same interests. We've been together for 7 years.
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GwennyOh- unfortunately shows like Oprah and others like her focus on the bad, if they told good stories the ratings would fall through the floor. Sensationalism is what people care about, not the truth. I met my wife on line in 99 met n in for first time in person in 02, she moved here and we got married in 04, had our first baby in 11 and will be married for 10 years next year. If not for the web I don't know where I'd be.
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I have a pretty high tolerance for online "weirdness" now, but every now and then, I would still see a guy online that shocked me. For now, I have been dating someone for 4 months I met online I am happily married but it is interesting to see how times have changed. I met my wife through my work and after awhile everything clicked. I can see how hard and scary it could be for any woman on a dating site.
You scared me me away and I'm a guy. My cousin divorced looking for love in all the wrong places. He agreed with you on many topics. I think old fashioned ways might still be the best way. GwennyOh - You have to be really careful with online dating sites. I am cautious, but I do take chances here and there. Some guys are weird, but there are plenty of nice guys, too. You can leave if you promise that you will go home and stop using online dating sites".
I have been married for some time; so online dating is not something I have given thought to. I saw an Oprah show many years ago, where women spoke of some seriously bad stuff that had happened to them due to meeting men they had corresponded with online. One woman had her skull crushed with a baseball bat.
You just don't know who you will meet. But online dating sites are likely going to attract some members who have issues within 'real life' society. Online dating can be an adventure, but it is possible to meet a perfectly nice person while using the sites, too. It helps to have a sense of humor until meeting that perfectly nice person. I will of course bear all this in mind if I ever succumb to internet dating. Voted up and funny. I am happy you enjoyed it. Online dating definitely has its ups and downs. I haven't laughed so much in a while. Enough to put anyone off online dating.
I just try to look at it as an adventure and that works best. I am currently dating someone that does not fall into any of the categories above and I am pleased about that. I never partook in online dating so I had no idea Best wishes in your continued search. I've had that happen too. Thanks for checking out my hub! Ardot - I've found the most successful online dating stories often begin with two people meeting without really looking for each other. There is less pressure and people act more like themselves.
However, I do know two married couples that met on POF, so it can work on dating sites, too. I am not too sure foot fetish gal exists either, but then again, I am not looking for her. Jmillis - I am happy you enjoyed my hub. Maybe you will give online dating a shot sometimes. Thanks for the vote up! I have never really tried online dating , but this was a very entertaining hub.
In those days it was easy to be "the guy who says he is a girl and chats with guys as a girl" guy. In those days the online dating scene was for prison inmates and weirdo's posing as people they were not. But seriously, I met her in the chat room but was not looking to meet anyone, I was just hanging out as a guy and happened to find a normal person who lived nearby. By not looking for love online, I have avoided all of the above profiles you have mentioned. I love the way you used humor to get across a real point. It can be very dangerous to meet face to face with anyone online.
BTW, guys, stop looking for the elusive "foot fetish gal". She does not exist as you imagine her. Thank you for your post. Nice to understand the online dating scene from a women's perspective. Only success story I have is running into a chick I dated and became friends after meeting again. And ohhh, a MySpace success story! I don't hear about too many of those, but I remember dating a guy or two from MySpace. Those dates actually went better than many of my POF dates.
Good point about not knowing until you're at mom's house haha. Reminds me of the movie Hangover. Oh yes, the Mama's Boy. There are plenty of them on dating sites. You just can't tell at first. It takes a date or two sometimes at Mom's house before you realize it. Really fun article to read. Just wanted to add Mama's boy. I do understand that, they can be hard to date when that's all they want to talk about. Even if you, yourself, play games it gets old. I have also dated the gamer guy in the past. He is not a horrible person, but typically gamer guy is not a fun date I prefer the gamer guy more then any of those guys.
I like games and find that if you run out of things to talk about then just ask them what game they are playing and within hours you are able to figure out all the cheats to your new game. I think I've dated just about all the guys on this list, too. There are some real weirdos out there! So awesome, I am 19 years old and have dated all these guys before or at least meet them online or in person. Everything you said is basically true. Thanks so much for your comment! You are so right Aug 31, 4. They have gentleman callers throwing themselves at them left and right so they can actually be picky and choose someone with a personality.
VyseTheFearless , Aug 31, Aug 31, 5. Aug 31, 6. This seems like the type of complaint that comes from someone who has no personality and is grasping at straws to think of reasons other than the obvious lack of personality. Aug 31, 7. Sharkboy , Aug 31, Aug 31, 8. Tony , Aug 31, Aug 31, 9. Aug 31, Mornez , Aug 31, AzureFlameX , Aug 31, Last edited by Sharkboy , Aug 31, I was gonna use a picture to show you how close I am to putting you on IGNore, then I realized its less than a pixel. RichardBFloppin , Aug 31, MotherOfDragon1 and skrinkles like this. DonkeyHammer , Aug 31, Skip okcupid and look for couples into cucking on craigslist.
I had no idea there were so many couples into cuckolding. I go on craigslist and email my pic to every mw4m ad. Ended up having sex with 3 women in 1 week. They are hotter than the women that match me on tinder, and I don't have to take them out to dinner. One couple actually bought me drinks.
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