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No, not like the essays you used to write in high school. The last thing you want is for your ex to think you are completely devastated from your break up. You want him to think your life is better than ever! You are who you are, and unlike your ex, you will find someone who can appreciate that. If you are looking for a time to reach out to your ex, as soon as he starts dating someone else is most definitely not that time. However selfish it may sound, the only time you should reach out to your ex is when your life could not be better.
Did you just get a new promotion at work? Just ran a marathon? Writer based in the Philadelphia area. The coworker is 17, and my ex is trying to pursue a relationship with him. Two days before they hung out for the first time, my ex and I had sex for what may be the last time. He said he wanted to focus on the possible new relationship with the coworker and not think about our past because it still hurts him.
I would like to be friends with him too. But the difficult part is that this new relationship will be right in my face on a daily basis. Keep in mind that your ex being only 21, probably has a different frequency from you in terms of what he's seeking out. At this point, there's a likelihood that he's still curious to explore and therefore might have lost interest in the current relationship to pursue something novel.
There's not much that can be done at this point, except to either win him back or to wait it out and hope it's merely a phase he's going through. I was hoping for some insight. We had been dating for 3 years. A year and a half of which was long distance. We have so much in common and shes perfect. Ive dated alot of girls. So we got in a couple small fights December and January over the diatance but still resolved them.
In February I send her gifts for valentines day. Which she later said she liked. Literally days following that she tells me we should minimize communication because she has a boyfriend now. Which was weird because like I said there was no evidence prior. We continued to talk regardless a for a few weeks then she completely shut me out. Since then I wouldnt stop contacting her which was bad I know. I was in her city a few weeks ago and told her to call me so we could link. She called and as hard as I tried I couldnt help but ask several questions about her relationship.
She said she cant tell me when it became serious which was odd to me. Yet she said she met him last summer. I got made and she said shed call me back never did. I have yet to go no contact with her for long. I feel like she would of never called me if they werent. As you were in a long distance relationship with her, it may have been the reason she moved on to a new partner so quickly to which she may have felt a loss of spark for awhile but never had a reason to bring it up until she fell for someone else.
This would also contribute towards her being able to detach herself from you so easily after the breakup. You should try going into no contact but not simply with the focus of winning her back, but more so to work on yourself and give both parties space. After NC has ended, you can decide again whether you want to win her back or not and follow the steps in our articles for more help. My ex and I been together for almost four years.
Well anyway, he broke up with me almost three months ago. Life pretty much gotten in the way from a miscarriage from him losing his car and his place. As of right now he and her are doing long distance rebound and I want him back. He told me he wants me to heal first and then he would be interested in pursuing a relationship with me.
Is there any tips for me? Perhaps spend this time working on things you felt could have contributed towards any issues during the relationship, and maybe even consider improving your appearance or working on your self-confidence in general. Use this article for more guidelines to follow. It's been well over a month after we broke up, I did the No-Contact for about 40 days. She texted me 3 times during this period. I have accidentally met her with her new guy at a pub we first met - she doesn't go there often. The guy approached me later and we had a chat - now I know that they argue a lot and she was telling him about me much.
She joined us and quickly became upset and angry, she asked the guy to leave her - he refused, seemed needy and was trying to hold her. A few times he looked like he was about to leave, but eventually they both stayed for a while. When I went to grab another beer she was looking at me. BUT - she texted me today asking why can't we just be friends, and repeated that we will never get back together. Then we chatted some more. I am lost, I was cool about them the entire time, but I want her back.
Can I make it happen?
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It's likely that she still has feelings for you but has developed an internal conflict with herself because she's still in a relationship, hence her sudden text to you to try and validate her own thoughts. You did fine by acting cool throughout, and you could continue to respond to her in that manner and slowly show off the changes you've made since the breakup to come across as more attractive. Hi, Thanks for reply. I did continue to text with her, we switched to phone texts rather than FB messages. She is aware of my progress, mabe just not realised how much better I am now in full.
But she again sent a picture of a gift from her new boyfriend - a laptop. This is another time he gives her something expensive. I am under impression that he needs to give her expensive stuff because he has no value. Now - I responded saying "Cool" and then texted her that "I am still hungover XD" - she new I was at the party yesterday. This might have been a mistake. But believe me, when I spoke to her new guy he legitimately asked me how I handled her moods.
Like he was asking for advice. Further to the above, what's my next step? Should I just continue to be "just" friends with her and wait? The problem is she lives at his place, can't go back to her parents. He can see everything we speak about via fb messages, not sure about other ways of communication. And I don't feel like she would agree to meet up soon either, I told her I was going rollerblading on Sunday and mentioned briefly she can join in, but she refused - she told me she has to work on her drawings for university.
Oh, and one more thing worth mentioning - when we were texting on Sunday she asked me if I accepted the breakup and the fact that we will never get back together. In terms of her perspective, her guard could still be up against you and she feels inclined to remind you that 'we've broken up', it sounds like because of her erratic mood as well, that she might swing from feelings of confusion towards both parties from time to time. You could continue to be friends with her at this point, or actually go back to NC for now because it may still be too soon to make a move.
We've been texting for a week now. On Wednasday she called me at midnight, asking if she could stay some nights she mentioned she got new job and it would be far away, but if I am correct where they live the communication is great. She did not show up though. When I asked her on Friday how's her new job, she texted me back when she was finished, asking if I want to pick her up. I wanted to, but she ended up going back home - at first I panicked, but later it occured me that I basically asked her to wait for me for an hour and move a few tram stops to meet me, so no hard feelings.
She also asked me if I would join them I believe she meant her and her bf on some cultural event last night, I told her I don't think I will be there but we will see as my friend wants to go out with me. Then we texted some more, she was asking me for advice again. So, as I see it, she either wants to mess with my head, or really wants me back but won't take any drastic actions for now.
She hasn't texted me yet today and it is 7PM. I feel like going back to NC and waiting more will not bring me good this time. They already are together over a month and a half, the longer I wait, the closer they get together. I think that if I go about it right, they might break up soon, that is if she has feelings for me. So me and my ex who's also the mother of my child of 9 years broke up with me due to the fact she fell out of love for me and felt like we're growing apart and she is seeing a co-worker like a week after our break up i ask her who he is and did she sleep with him but she refuse to give me the truth and when i ask her for a date she say stuff like why and then when and quickly say no i can't your my ex and I'm seeing someone so my question is is he a rebound and is it worth my time waiting for her or should i move on and the guy she seeing usually isn't her type.
The fact that the relationship lasted 9 years and he isn't her type strongly indicates that he is a rebound. Go into NC for now with the exception of contacting her with regards to your child's matters and focus on improving yourself while waiting for this phase of hers to pass. Me and my ex were together for 5 years. We broke up a month ago over trust issues I caused in the first year of us dating. But she has been seeing and talking with a guy she met at a party a few days after the break up.
A few days ago they made it official, I guess. Honestly after I heard she slept with him at the party I went crazy and bugged her everyday for a few weeks. She would talk with me some, giving me mixed feelings and signals, both good and bad. But now I am blocked on everything and haven't had any contact with her since her and him got together. If I start this now, do you think I still have a chance?
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She's told me she's done and doesn't want anything more to do with me, but this time last year we went through the same thing she was hateful towards me , she just says stuff when she's upset and she doesnt mean them. Give it some time to see if she means it or not. In the meantime since this guy may be a rebound, simply focus on improving yourself and applying no contact for the time being. My ex and i were together almost 9 years and we broke up 2 months ago. I told her I was willing to try and she was not. I told her if she was just looking for an excuse to be single and date other people that I would at least like to know that because I feel I deserve that truth so i can move on.
I implemented no contact after that last interaction for a month. I then called her one day and she answered, we spoke for bit and it went really well so I asked if she wanted to meet for coffee quick to catch up. I waited another week and called again, same scenario we spoke for 20 minutes and it was going well, and we were both actually in the same area so i asked if she wanted to get that coffee but she had plans with a friend.
So tentatively made plans for a few days later and when i texted her that morning to ask if she was still free that day, no response at all, completely ignored. Since you've been together with her for the last 9 years, its highly likely that she is going through a rebound relationship right now. She may be confused between subconsciously wanting to meet you and her mind telling her not to, which has resulted in this mixture of negative and positive responses.
In my opinion, it would be a good idea to take it slow with her, and try not to give her any pressure but only good memories at each point of contact you have with her for the time being, to let her decision become a little less conflicted. Yet she still text me and we still in touch until 2 weeks ago. I read your article and I give her space like weeks. Before no contact she doing fine and tell me that she still loved me. After 3 weeks no contact, I send her letter and she's reply my text cynically and said she is already close with someone else but not in relationship yet.
I admit my mistake and try to call her but she's reject it. Do I need longer the NC period? What should I do? She may currently be in a stage of rebound, or there's a small chance that she may have started to process the breakup and begun to move on since the break up was 4 months ago. Regardless, because she has responded negatively towards you, avoid pressuring her any further for now and instead focus on yourself.
You could try again in about a week or two and see how she responds then. Ok, me and my girl been together 10 years im 31 she is 29, we met on social media i lived in a different state but she lived in a state i use to live, but my mom an sisters and friends still lived there. Me im wondering if i have a shot? Yes, it would be better to avoid her during this period of no contact. Have a read through this article as we have a section on how to handle no contact if you live in the same household.
Hey, me and my girlfriend were together over a year long distance. I spent a few months with here and she Came here too, about a month and a half ago we broke up and we have barely spoken since. She started dating a girl which after reading about rebounds I believe she is in one with her.
I assume we will be around each other a lot so how do I go about winning her back? How should I approach winning her back when she gets here because I know she will still very much have feelings for me as I do for her I just need to get them out of her? I think the best thing you can do is to build up a level of comfort with her, so that whatever she feels can be expressed naturally without any reservations. Be sincere, fun, caring, and if she genuinely misses you, there would be a high chance that her expressions would show.
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Hey I spoke to her today a little and she seems exited about spending time with me when she gets here. And a few weeks ago she said no and she never actually gave me an answer today. I have a one year baby with him we planned to marry. In october last year we had a serious fight and we partly broke up. In December we attempted to make it work again,only to learn he had been engaged to someone else and she was also pregnant.
I asked him why he did that he said because i pushed him but he still wants me and he is going to break the engagement. Todate there is still a lot of tension and i feel hurt. A number of times he had tried to show off but i didnt realise what was happening. During the break he had been sending the pregnant girl to drop my baby things he bought.
We have been fighting a lot over this but he still cant let me go saying we are going to work it out. I even confronted the girl telling her he has been dating the both of us,he told to her that we had permanently broken up and she seemed to enjoy dropping my babys things as it proves an end to our relationship. This time around he is not hiding the fact that he still wants me inspite of his situation with her,he played damb when i told him i was going to let the other girl know what has been going on. Right now i've decided to go no contact because it has been eating me up;although here and there he reaches out to me about the baby and I respond.
What must I do?
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I still love him and somehow blame myself for what happened. Firstly, you have to stop blaming yourself for whatever happened. Regardless of whether you pushed him away, his current actions of wanting the best of both worlds is wrong and should not be entertained. It's not about giving him an ultimatum, but instead doing what's best for you emotionally and mentally. NC seems like the best thing you can do right now, and if he contacts you regarding your child, you can still go ahead to reply if it's important but otherwise, limit small talk for the time being and focus on yourself instead.
I cheated on her and covered it up for a month lying about stuff i didn't do. I ended up admitting it to her, and it was super hard and she dumped me the next day. She had been hitting me up occasionally saying she misses me and still loves me, that if we were both single in June and I changed I may have a chance to get her back. This was like the first 4 weeks. She hit me up a couple more weeks, like once a week.
Then after February 29 she stopped. Its been a month and a half now after the breakupp and she told me two days ago after asking if she still loved me that she loves me as that she cares about me, that she misses me as a best friend, but not as a boyfriend.
She said that she isn't looking past my dishonesty, lying, and immaturity. That she has already started hanging out with someone new, has went on a couple dates and hung out a couple times. Is it too late? You still have a chance, but you have to give her more time to let go of the past incident and for you to show her that you've changed.
I suggest applying No Contact for now, and work on yourself in the meantime before trying to start a friendship with her once more. Is the new guy a rebound? It is also my birthday in like two days, what happens if she messages me. You could definitely reply her with a thank you but keep the conversation short if possible. It's still too early to tell if the new guy is a rebound, but is usually is the case. She just messaged me and I said thank you. She then told me i hope ur doing well and left the conversation at that. Im going to go on the no contact situation now for a month or two.
Things were looking bad towards the past 6 months of our relationship as I needed time alone but my ex girlfriend needed attention and companionship which I failed to give her.. And not to make her choose between her new partner or me. Is she in a rebound? Although she said it is better that I move on and forget about her, she also still wants to play the online games we play together as she still likes spending time with me. What should I do..? We are going to get married in the game we play this weekend. She knows I still love her, and I know she loves her partner. Could she be lying?
What should I do Some individuals require constant attention and companionship from their partner or they begin to latch on to a new person when those needs are not met. Either way, she seems to be more inclined to her new partner at this point, to which you shouldn't overthink small gestures that may not mean anything because that will drive you crazy.
From how I see things, your ex may actually be someone who is drawn to the person that makes her feel positive, while showing her lots of attention and care. If you're able to deal with that and start as friends but perhaps using the game as a way to build a positive bond with her, you might still have a chance. However, if you don't think you can go through with things smiling and pretending to be ok especially while she remains with her current partner , it might be more advisable to move on. Thanks for your reply Ryan. Regardless, no contact should still be applied, whether it's to give her space to miss you, or even space for you to pick yourself up.
Hi , so me and my ex have been together for 2 years i broke up with her about a month ago , this was the 4th time we have broken up and I've done it 3 out of the 4 times , I realized it that I need to change and I love her but she got a new job 2 weeks ago and started seeing somebody else , he s giving her the attention and all the sweetness I started lacking in , they work at the same place and same hours , she said she doesn't know if it's the right choice or not but she's guna try it with the new guy , I tryed everything to convince her but she said she loves me but is afraid we will get together then I will dump her again , what shoujld I do , just let it go and let her try it with the guy.
I've tryed everything ,she said she loves me but yet what's to try something new cause she's happy with this guy they work same place and same shift , he gives her rides home buy her flowers. Given her current fears right now, even if you win her back, she would still be ridden with the insecurities that you would break up with her at any point down the road.
Since she has expressed that she intends to give it a shot with the other guy, you might have to respect that for now, and only try again if they were to end things. It seems like the guy may be a rebound relationship considering that it started pretty recent after the breakup with you. We broke up a month ago and i was like a crazy stalky and jealous ex She kept telling me that she wanted some space and time, that she wanted to be alone, and wanting to respect her choice i cope up with that for 1 week then the miss was too hard and talked and it always finished in a fight and she blocked me on all social media.
Since you've already gotten blocked and acted needy, you should give her some space for now and begin no contact instead. Fighting on under these circumstances would only ruin your chances further in getting back together with her. Yes I had completed NC and it went very well.
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But I think you're right.. She had been giving me a hard time about a few things, I did try my best to resolve those negative thoughts, because like you said in the 5 step plan its important to talk and sort stuff like this out. I know shes had been speaking to someone else so I don't know if that's playing on her mind. When I told her that it was best to leave things she kept looking at old photos from stuff we've done together and showing me, so she clearly was emotional about it.
Perhaps I need to change my approach and maybe start being a bit more strong headed? If you genuinely want her back, being strong headed might not be the best idea as it may push her further away instead, reminding her of the past. Remember that you're supposed to have changed and improved for the better, so if something is bothering you regarding her, perhaps its best you be honest about those feelings and show her you're capable of communicating effectively.
This might increase her affection towards you and even assure her that your change is something permanent. I was with this girl for over a year. We never got intimate as she wanted to get married. I went out of my way for her supported her financially, accepted and loved her son and family, she never posted anything about us on her social media and in December a week before Christmas we went to Hawaii with some friends.
We broke up while in Hawaii, and 2 months after that trip she changes all her profile pictures to her and a new guy kissing. Ive made no contact since we got back, I was so hurt but seeing that picture made me close that chapter to know she didnt love me but used me. I'm so sorry to hear that Chris, we sincerely hope that you'll be able to pick yourself up in time, and find happiness once more down the road. So on Friday I met up with my ex.. We had quite a lengthy chat about a lot of stuff. We both had quite abit to drink and I was planning on staying over anyway.
I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how to approach this? If you've already completed NC, the fact that she still doesn't see a future could either mean she hasn't fully let go of the negative emotions from the breakup, or that she really doesn't see a future with you at the moment although it's clear that she still has feelings for you.
You could consider replying and slowly working your way towards winning her back by giving her more space, or decide to walk away from things. Okay not looking for advice but would just like to comment that your advice worked too well! After 3 months of doing me, getting a new car, getting a new job, losing 20 lbs and looking and feeling great, my ex came back and said he was over his rebound and wanted to get back together. We talked for about 5 days and he said he thought I deserved better than him and I was doing so great he didn't want to interrupt that - and went back to the rebound chick.
Honestly it was very helpful though - made me realize that he's childish with commitment problems and I deserve better than whatever he is serving. Thanks for the advice! We're really proud of what you've achieved and we hope that these changes have made your life much better. All the best to you!
My ex broke up with me. I just moved out Jan. He says she means nothing to him but yet he spends every weekend with her including Christmas and New Year's. He said it's not cheating because he been told me he wasn't happy. Should I just forget about him? If the break up occurred prior to the start of him seeing another girl, then yes it wasn't cheating. However, if he had started seeing that person while you were still together, and even living under the same roof, he isn't worth it since he doesn't seem to understand the context of cheating or what it means to be in a relationship.
I was with this girl for about to years. It was a long distance relationship and we felt we were made for each other. She always wanted to communicate with me and she told me how much she loved me. We argued sometimes and she'll block on social media me but later come back telling me how she missed me and liked me. Just recently she told me she didn't wanna be in a relationship with me and wanted to be alone and that she doesn't like me. She wants to be just friends but I really love this girl and I want her.
She doesn't text me as she used to and when I text her she doesn't reply. It's like she doesn't care about me anymore. I did the no contact and got in touch with her, she's just been cold. If no contact did not work, you might want to think about why she may be acting this way. It may be necessary to go about no contact once more for a longer period before contacting her again. However, the alternative to that if you aren't able to cope emotionally is to be fair to yourself and consider walking away. I really would want to walk away, take my mind off her but I love her and I'm always thinking about her.
I've started the no contact again but I don't think she considers me a part of her life now. I just wanna get over with this whole thing. My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago. We agreed to focus on improving ourselves and not date or hookup with anyone else in the 2 weeks. Well he admitted to me he went on a few dates with a girl 8th grade ex gf When he is drunk he would send me photos of them together. But we still have been talking and seeing each other frequently. But he is also still taking her out on dates and talking to her. It just hurts so much he is so quickly enjoying dates and time with another girl.
It sounds like a rebound especially since you guys were together for a period of time, and he's currently going through a novel experience by dating someone new.
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I encourage that you follow through with no contact, work on improving yourself, not being his emotional bolster to turn to whenever he needs someone, and give him the space to realize that he's going through a rebound. Therefore, I can say that this does work.
The response actually surprised me because she immediately suggested to meet up face to face, even is she is uncertain whether it will make a difference she says, but it seems like the right thing to do. The month of absence for me was complete hell, I was literally waiting daily to hear from her, but then wrote myself after 30 days, and received a reply. What is very strange however, is that the day after she replied "we should meet up face to face", she blocked me from her facebook until then it was all normal and visible , not unfriended me, but I can't see any posts anymore that are not public.
This is strange, and I don't understand this part. I hope that meeting her in real will bring some answers, as the break was very sudden and very strange, from everything great to a sudden complete stop. I've read on your site that it might be that some exes don't want to upset the other in case they might want to come back, but I do fear the worst scenario, that there is someone else, let's hope this is not the case.
Would also be a bit soon, after 30 days In any case, whereas she said out of the blue "we will never see each other again" around new year, wanting to meet in person is progress. Now I am not strong enough to project any strong security yet, so I hope I won't be too emotional meeting her. I know we should be all manly and have made a change, but the truth is I've been too devastated for a month to make much progress, only thinking: If you have any tips for this first meet, for which I am very nervous feels like meeting her for the first time all over again and what the block in fb linked to that means, pls let me know Hi, im 22 my ex is 23 years old.
He was my fiance for two years and we have dated 7 years. We thought about getting married this year but few years was not good for us. By the way we were waiting till marriage but still did things.. I was working because of our future, he wanted attention, and intimacy i told him we can if he wants to, but he wanted to wait, sometimes i needed attention, because he was playing games..
So i throwed my ring and told him its over. But he didnt do anything he was tired, before that he was always telling me that im the one, he dont want to lose me. So we had a break, we wanted to start over but the thing was We've met 3 times and everything was there, we were flirting, talking, laughing but when we were talking about relashionship he was on phone smiling, i didnt show but i was jealous. But messages from him and chating was great, we were talking like we used to with romantic emojis and that he miss me..
He told me he dont want to get hurt again and that he will act like everythings perfect and will not show his feelings anymore. What I suppose to do? How do I get back with him? If you were together with him for such a long period, and he is capable of dating other people so quickly, it either goes to show that he may have lost interest in the relationship a while back hence his priorities of meeting friends and playing games over you , or he just doesn't want to deal with the negative emotions of dealing with a break up. The new girl he's seeing is probably a rebound however, considering the time you've been with him and that's also why it may be hard for him to let go of her so soon, since it's providing for a new experience which he has not had in a long time.
We dated for about 3 months before getting together for 6 months. During the dating period we were really happy together. However, as this was my first relationship, I didn't maintain it well enough to make her happy each day like texting her as and when I'm free. We had an arguement and it got worse after. All she wanted was an apology, my time and attention. I regreted all that has happened. Soon after she initiated to break up as I didn't try to understand and solve the issue within the two weeks. Two months after, I realize she is dating someone new, much older but he seems to be experienced enough to text her every single day including morning and night.
I'm now on NC and not sure what I can do next. It is really hard to initiate conversation with her as she is a loyal girl who sticks to a guy at a time. She will most likely ignore my message if I text. What else can I do? In this scenario, it could either lead to 2 outcomes. The first is that if the relationship you shared was meaningful, there's a likelihood that the guy she's dating now is a rebound and would eventually end. The second and worse of the two outcomes is that she has moved on to something better and isn't going to look back, because it was your first relationship and didn't maintain it well enough it's no fault of yours.
Either way, there's not much you could do right now, except pick yourself up, and focus on NC as well as moving on.
If an opportunity presents itself again in the future and you feel something for her still, perhaps you could give it another shot then. How long do the rebound relationship usually last? What if the new guy is really experienced and treats her well enough of the things I didn't do? Is she still feeling emotional about our relationship or that she has moved on to the new guy?
I only managed to understand the whole stituation after the break up and it gave me a lesson learnt. I really do hope that I can get her back together and do the right things for her to be happy. It is a torture to be waiting and thinking each day when will they eventually end.
A word of advice would be to not sit around and wait for them to eventually end, because there's really no telling when it will end. In this particular situation, I hate to break it to you, but he may or may not actually be a rebound considering that you had no prior relationship experience, so there was a limit to the impression you may have left her with. I suggest focusing on picking yourself up, and even trying to move on for the time being - you might want to consider dating again in the near future to gain more exposure as well.
If she happens to break up with her current partner in the future, and an opportunity presents itself, you could always consider your options then. I commented like a month back about my ex breaking up with me and moving onto a girl who is He is 24 and I am So it's been 3 days past the 30 day NC period and still haven't started any contact again. I didn't do so well in the no contact period. I was motivated in the beginning and still am, have been going consistently to the gym, reading motivational books, but have days where I am crying for hours.
Now they are becoming more often. Also 2 weeks ago, my ex who blocked me on everything did this thing where he followed and unfollowed me on snapchat after an hour and then the next day followed me didn't follow back at all but then posted pics with her that night on instagram. I also found out he unblocked me on all social media and even my number but made his instagram private. I'm getting too into details but I thought it was weird because I know he blocks contact with exes and apparently he's so happy with her. They haven't posted anything on instagram since that post like 2 weeks ago but all the posts are still there.
I'm still confused and really let this get to me in the 2nd half of NC. I'm also really hesitant about contacting again. Do you have any advice on where to go from here? Social media has the tendency to present a very false state of truth, where people post pictures or snaps of being happy or traveling the world, but actually have many issues they do not show.
Just like how you upload snaps of going out with your friends and looking happy, your ex might be doing the same. However, if he's seen all your posts and unfollowed you after, he might be curious to see how you've been doing, and may even start to feel confused. That being said, he isn't about to just break up with his girlfriend immediately and jump back into your arms. Time is still needed for events to unfold, but for the meantime, you should focus on why you've been feeling worse lately and crying more, instead of waiting for him or thinking too much about the situation.
The likelihood of her being in a rebound relationship is dependent on the type and length of relationship the both of you shared. If things were serious and there was a meaningful relationship, it's possible that she is going through a rebound. But you also have to consider why the relationship didn't work out in the first place, because that would explain further how she feels about you. I would recommend letting her relationship run it's course, and you shouldn't interfere with it, as it may push her further away. In the meantime, focus on the potential issues you had as a partner, and work on improving yourself.
That way, when you decide to contact her again, at least there's a significant change that she may notice from you, which further sparks interest. My ex boyfriend and I dated for nearly 5 years. I was 18 when we first started dating. We had an amazing relationship, we both knew we wanted to be together as we discussed marriage and kids. However, over 6 months ago my feelings seemed to have changed for him, I told him about it and broke up with him We were great for 2 months however his family decided to cut me off because of what I did and treated me poorly.
I lost all my confidence, I lost direction and I just knew he could do better than me. So I broke it off with him again and this was just over 4 months ago. Not only is this needy and desperate but it is too big of a statement too soon. Instead if you did subtle things like liking a picture on Facebook then your ex is going to sit there and wonder,. Timing is an important concept for you to grasp here because if your ex is in the midst of a honeymoon period with her new guy whenever you start to try anything it might be met with a very cold disposition. Some of you may be wondering where I came up with this and for me to fully explain that I have to tell you a story.
When it was all said and done our little project had done 49 days of no contact before she reached out. Our research suggests that on average it is going to take you anywhere from 3 to 6 months to get your ex girlfriend back. Imagine that your new made up girlfriend is best friends with her ex. Someone who used to sleep with her, who used to touch her in all the ways you get to.
Your girlfriend talks to her ex every single day and he provides her with emotional support support that is supposed to come from you. Like I said above, it is very rare for a man to be ok with the fact that his girlfriend or wife is good friends with her ex.
In other words, you becoming friends with your ex is going to cause your exes new man to go absolutely ballistic when he finds out that she is talking to you and this is what you want. You want HIM to do all the work in making you look like a star. Providing emotional support for your ex girlfriend when you become friends is really where you are going to shine.
If you can get her to open up to you and trust you enough to let you in then I guarantee that you are going to come out looking like a star. When I talk about providing emotional support I am not talking about helping her with her own relationship. If she asks you for relationship advice on him I want you to decline as politely as possible.
As long as you are a constant presence throughout your exes life it will create enough annoyance in the new guy to cause the downfall of their relationship. But perhaps the most brilliant part about this strategy is that it forces your ex to choose between the new guy and you. You may not know this about me but I have a private Facebook Group for people who are going through breakups.
About a year ago I remember I was doing one of these lives and a real therapist who happened to be in the group was watching. She dug in and defended her position and I dug in and defended my position and everyone got treated to a show for ten minutes. After the experience I literally when I was left to my own thoughts I began to agree with the therapist.
I get hired to come up with strategies like this for a living. Someone will pay me money and ask,. When it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back who is with someone new the worst thing you can do is just sit around and do nothing. We have also worked on re-establishing a friendship with her so that you can provide her with emotional support and her new boyfriend may cause a few fights over it. A big mistake I see a lot of men making is the fact that they jump into the deep end instead of wading into the shallow one when it comes to building attraction. Because absolutely zero attraction has been built.
There is no chemistry. There is no build up or romance. Women love to be romanced. They love it when a man works for their attention. Ok, lets say that you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back and she has just gotten a new boyfriend. You have come to this page and have implemented everything perfectly so far. You have done a shortened NC rule, you have worked on re-establishing your friendship with your ex. Eventually the new boyfriend got so upset about this that it has caused a bit of a rift in their relationship.
Well, obviously the next step for you is to work on building attraction. Of course, in order to do that successfully you have to create this build up to gain the attraction momentum that you need. What I want to do now is to show you how you should go about creating this perfect build up. I am a fan of a subtle build up with text messages which eventually lead to phone calls which eventually lead to a face to face meeting. Now, I realize that this is a birds eye view of what you are supposed to be doing. What you are probably wondering is what you should be doing when you text her.