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No offense, but the 19 year olds I knew who would date or rather sleep with 16 year olds were not the most mature people, on either end. It is regarded as rather trashy, immature. That would be her , not you. I assume that both of you are in GA? If not, there could be some problems. There is a new law passed just a few years ago that makes it illegal to have sexual conversations with teenagers over the internet. It was championed by Mark Foley, if you can believe that.
I don't think it applies to phone calls.
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Even if she's above the age of consent in both states, you would still be violating this federal law, from what I understand. I don't see a moral problem with it, and if you knew eachother locally, you probably wouldn't have any problems, but it's because it's on "teh scary internet" it could be to have any kind of sexual discussion with her until she turns Also consider that she not be telling the truth about her age.
Let me put it to you this way. I was a 16 year old who dated a 19 year old. I don't recommend it. I don't know the particular laws of your state, but I don't think an age gap like that is creepy at all. I think you just need to remember that even though you might be willing to sleep with her, she might not be at that stage of thinking yet.
It's three years difference. And legal double check your legal research. If things go well, fine. Don't worry about what all the prudes in here are saying, though. My parents are 7 years apart, for goodness sake. It's a "bad idea", but you're going to do it no matter what. You're right, there's no way to know for sure the maturity level of each of the people involved, nor can I predict with certainty that this will turn out badly.
But in general, it tends to be the case that 19 year olds with their unrestricted drivers' licenses and lack of curfews and independence are attractive to 16 year olds because of the differences between them and because they seem exciting and mature, and that creates power differentials in many relationships. My advice would be to avoid such relationships. And if you think you're the exception to all of this and that your relationship is a good idea, tread carefully. There's two conversations here.
CAN you date a 16 year old when you're 19 in the state of georgia? Yes, but you can't have sex outside of a marriage in Georgia or it's a state offense, and you can't talk dirty over the internet or it's a federal offense. Well, it depends on who you are and who she is -- in your own heads, I mean.
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There's a lot of maturing and growing up that you both have left to do. If you intend this to last a while, you're going to be going through stages of your life with three years separation -- which is not a huge amount if you're in college or later, but realize that you'll be a senior when she's a freshman in college So when she's still figuring out how to live on a campus, you may not be able to be sympathetic , and you'll already be out of college and working by the time she's turned 21 that means that you won't be able to go into a bar with her in most states for the next five years There's also some seriously drastic, from a guy's point of view, emotional changes that girls go through in the late teenage years -- ex: That's tough to deal with because you liked her the way she was under her family's roof, and it's tough to figure out what happened to turn that sweet girl you've been going with for the past two years into a pierced and tattooed party animal.
Speaking from personal experience here. Guys don't deal with that kind of change well for the most part, and that might kill your relationship just when you're finishing the period of life in which many guys find the woman they'll settle down with.
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Add into that that she's a minor, and if her parents decide to move halfway across the country in the next few years, so sorry, you both lose. That's a whole hell of a lot of rough spots that can leave one or the other of you in a difficult place. If you can deal with all of that, go ahead I've only seen this kind of age gap at your ages work for people who are deeply religious and have deep family and community ties and use that framework to get through the rough spots, but that's not to say that you couldn't be successful. Just because something is legal doesn't make it right There are two aspects to this, a legal one and a moral one.
Legally, judging by the responses above, it seems that you may be in trouble if things get physical or explicit. That is a serious thing you should consider, as her parents could probably press charges if they deemed fit, even without her consent. In a moral sense long as you are completely respectful of any boundaries has has, I see no problem with this. I say this as a woman who dated a guy five years older than me from when I was 17 to I never felt uncomfortable, even though we were in different stages of our lives most of the time we were dating.
He was supportive and absolutely not forceful, and so it worked quite well for a long time. If age is not used as an intimidation device, the relaitonship could work quite well. Please don't base your legal knowledge on the responses above; primary sources are always going to be more accurate than a poll of random people on the internet. Which would imply that sex with anyone 16 or older is legal, but it wouldn't be a bad idea to double-check that with a lawyer or child protection service agency.
It was called "high school. Ontario had grade thirteen, then. I'm surprised by any disapproval here, really. The old saw that "girls mature faster than boys" comes to mind; I never really knew any yr-old girls who were all that fond of yr-old boys. The only thing I can remember being an issue was an occasional hassle if we went out in a group that wanted to go to a bar; here, 19's the drinking age.
So, er, if things are still going strong two years from now -- well, I'll answer your "How do I get my underage girlfriend into clubs with me? Which will maybe include suggestions for dealing with barf on your car upholstery. You might want to steel yourself for occasional good-natured ribbing from your friends, but they'll be fine if she's not a ditz. That aside, it's always, age difference aside, a good idea to be the boyfriend who, on his on-time arrival, has a nice chat with her folks and all that.
But perhaps particularly important here. Frankly, regardless of the actual laws, I would not put myself in any kind of romantic relationship that had participants on different sides of 18, just to be completely safe.
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Only you or someone who knows more about the both of you than us random Internet people can answer the question about whether you are emotionally and socially suited to each other, but I dated both younger and older girls in high school not at the same time with perfectly fine results, so it's not necessarily a bad move. For age of conset laws around the world, go to http: The outcome of the case that is mentioned can be found here.
Sexual exploitation of children; reporting violation; forfeiture; penalties GA Criminal Code: Electronically furnishing obscene material to minors A pissed off parent and competent lawyer could make your life hell based on the above, in certain circumstances.
One thing to keep in mind is that while you may not have intentions of having sex with her until she's 18, she might have other plans. Or your current plans may change, especially in the heat of the moment. You really need to meet her parents and let them know of yoru age upfront.
Being straightforward and honest about this makes things easier if the family disapproves. It depends on the people. And it depends on how her parents feel about it. At 16, I went out with someone who was We were great friends, my parents liked him, and we had pretty healthy physical and emotional boundaries.
There are other people who were my age that I would have never considered dating because they were pretty awful to their girlfriends.
I'm 20, a recent ex had a 16 year old younger sister. Her sister was like a little kid, obviously in high school but still totally in a different part of life. I'm having a hard time imagining how you and this 16 year old are really connecting in any way. If I had to guess, a pretty girl with a thing for "older" dudes is giving you some attention and you don't have the good sense to turn her down. I've know 14, 15, 16 year olds more responsible and mature than 20, 21, 22 year olds, and exactly opposite as well. Be safe, be careful, It might be wise to wait a year or so just for the social aspect, but if you guys hit it off really well on the long term proceed cautiously.
Agreeing that this isn't a big deal as presented. A three-year age difference between teenagers is pretty normal. Just as a point of reference: In several countries it's This is actually quite easily answered, although the answer changes based on the situation: If you are open and honest to everyone, including both of your parents, about your relationship, then sure go for it, enjoy. Relationships like this really are pretty pedestrian, but only when open from the very get-go.
When I was 16 I had a boyfriend who was Between the two of us things were fine. I was mature enough that we were somewhat at the same leval. I think the people that think there is too much of an age difference are really overreacting. No one would blink and eye if she was 19 and you were When I was 16 certainly wouldn't have wanted anything to do with guys my age. So, the age difference is not really a problem. What might be a problem is her parents. Sex IS going to come up. I had sex with my boyfriend just after I turned 17 and he had turned My parents didn't specifically know that we were having sex, but when they found out I had slept over at his house, they got a little pissed, but it only resulted in my having a tighter curfew, and lying to them more.
So, my suggestions, have a relationship with her, meet her parents and find out exactly where you stand with them. If you can wait until she is 18 to have sex, great! Don't let her tell her friends, and even if you get the idea that her parents would be okay with it, still keep everything as quiet as possible.
And of course, you must trust her completely. If you think she is the kind of person who would later get revenge by claiming rape, don't sleep with her of course, if you thought that I don't know why you'd want anything to do with her at all. I'd say having a relationship with a girl a few years younger than you is pretty normal, and legal, it's only sex that might get you in trouble, and really, that is pretty unlikely to lead to problems unless you are dealing with some real assholes.
Be aware that if you are in Georgia, they used to have laws specifically regarding if you get involved with her asshole. I'm being flip, of course, but somewhat serious as well. I do not know the current status of sodomy bills in GA. It would be worth looking up, because statutory rape and underage sodomy are going to be treated as two completely different things.
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I think the legal thing has been pretty well dealt with, so I'll stick to the "should you" aspect. I think its fine as long as you are totally upfront with her parents, and they're ok with it. I do have to agree though, with the people who say that she's probably going to change and that's going to be hard. Take my word for it, I was a 17 year old dating a 22 year old, and when I went to college, everything changed. I'm such a different person now then I was then, people don't even really believe me when I describe my former self. However, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't date now, you have a whole two years to go before that sort of shit hits the fan, just be careful.
And with litigious parents, it can get legally dicey. The age difference now is much more of a big deal than it will be in even a couple of years though, frankly, being of age when your girlfriend isn't is profoundly shitty. If you have to ask the question, it's not okay. I met the "love of my life" when I was almost He was almost We were together for six wonderful years and my family loved him and he was the very best friend I've ever had.
Those different worlds can create a bit of a maturity gap. But if you can overcome that, and you are not breaking the law, then why not? It's not like you are going to get married and have 10 babies. We are just talking about dating. The maturity levels and intentions for guys at 19 are big.
Now put on your big girl panties and really analyze this. Look at the situation from outside-another perspective-someone else's eyes if you can. He might be a great guy, I don't know him, but some questions to really and truly analyze are: Is he with you because he doesn't feel worthy to date someone his own age? Is he a manipulator and can't find a girl his age to control because they're too independent? Does he try to isolate you, keep you from your friends, parents, activities you enjoy? Even a little bit? Is he just immature for 19? Guys don't become who they are more than likely going to grow up to be until after age 23 or Depending on the involvement of their parents and their upbringing, some much later than that, if ever.
Is his motivation to get close to you the act of sex? It's not love for most guys. They know how to play it, even if it's not a conscious thought. They use "love" to get what they physically desire-sex. Girls are in "love", and go along with sex to get the closeness they desire. Everyone feels they are special, they are different and it won't be like that for them. But the fact is, most situations are the same.
When the guy dumps them or tells all to his friends and they talk about her behind her back and he spreads her reputation around, that's when the girls feel the abandonment and lack of self respect, when it's too late. Hopefully, you have enough wisdom, maturity and patience to accept it. Have a daily relationship with God, with prayer and Bible study. That will do the most to keep you on the right track and be patient.
Can I date a 16 year old? - ageofconsent | Ask MetaFilter
Some day you will find the right person. Not the 3 yr age difference but the legal one. Just imagine how much trouble he could get into if someone found out that the two of you were having sex if you are. Your parents or any concerned adult could press charges against him or charges could be brought against him by the state depending on where you live. Some states recoginze you as an adult when you are I would check into these things because if he gets in trouble then he will be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
Just lumped in with the real predators and sex offenders.
For his sake I would take some time and cool it until you are of age. I am sure that this is not what you wanted to hear but I hope it helps. It really depends on where you live. He is an adult. In my state of Georgia 16 is the age of consent so it would be OK. In a lot of states the age of consent is 17 or 18 and in that case you are a minor and your relationship would not be legal and if you are having sex he could be charged with statutory rape.
When you are 18 and he is 21 and if you are still in love, then it would be more appropriate.