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From my experience, there is a huge wall for asian men to hurdle. I am completely open to dating outside my race. Guess it depends on your geographical location. For example according to the US census 1 out of 3 American born East Asian guys especially Korean and Japanese descent are married to white women. We have high standards from the pairings I have seen. Truth is, a lot of white females are big as in fat. What can a little man do with a big white woman? Are you kidding me?!! There is a vast stereotype that is attributed to Asian women about being either excruciatingly tiny, or excruciatingly fat.
In my experience, fatness seems to abound in Asian women. Fat, rotund Asian women are very, very common. You are a butt hurt troll. Black guys like fat white girls. I have never seen an Asian dude with a fat white girl. My wife is a gorgeous white woman.
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Before me she never dated a Korean guy. Whether that is a positive or negative in this world, I know not. But what I can resolve, unfortunately, is that Asian men are not attractive to me. If that makes me an impossibly monstrous creature, so be it. If that makes me evil, or intolerant, or sub-human, I cannot help it. I am not attracted to Asian men. Are you saying asian guys are not attracted to you so you are not attracted to them? Chinese he always said he was only attracted to asian women: Elle, I doubt asian guys care if you are attractive.
Also, my first crush was with a blonde haired girl so I think it has to do with experiences growing up. When i was single I love all women and i never had a problem dating all nationalities without sterotrype. Love the midwest, tons of ladies love asian american guys there, tip for my asian brothers. I agree there are a lot of asian men out there that look scrawny or nerdy, but there are asian men too that do care about their appearances-just like there are fat, skinny, and ugly people of different races.
Anyhow, the media refuses to make asian men equal to that of the other men. This articles intends to address the ugly Asian Guys who have low self-esteem like me. The whole point of this discussion is for A: Just would like to add that as a white woman, I always thought Asian men were very handsome. Love the contrast with the hair and skin and of course the eyes. All my friends growing up in Europe were Asian too, mostly Chinese and Japanese.
Just have to find the right people of both races and it all works out perfectly! Greeting from Toronto, Canada!: The stereotype is definitely changing.
Bruce Lee What a babe!! He got fed up with the derogatory, prejudicial Asian stereotype so made the remainder of his movies in Hong Kong before he tragically left us. Who can watch a Jackie Chan or Jet Li movie without recalling the incomparable, highly respected and very much loved Bruce Lee? I think those stereotypes will soon be a thing of the past. By the by I suggest that anyone who thinks Asian men are any less masculine than any other man on the face of the earth read about the Triads. I highly recommend, The Dragon Syndicate regarding this specific topic.
Rock on you beautiful Asian men! Regarding the stereotyping of Asians excuse my ignorance but is there a smaller Asian demographic in the eastern US where you live relative to the west? Because the fewer a particular ethnically diverse presence means less contact which naturally leads to the dreaded ethnic stereotype.
In my wildest dreams I never expected to one day be interpreting an Asian language for a living and in all fairness if not for that I too might have bought into some of the ridiculous Asian stereotypes that prevail. However I did grow up in a heavily and wonderfully Asian-populated area and it never occurred to me to make a distinction between my ethnicity and that of my friends of Asian, African, Latino, Filipino, and other ethnic origins.
We went to the same schools, did the same things, socialized outside of school and were equally obnoxious to our teachers and parents as teenagers. He has a great sense of humor and is personable,mfun, intelligent and kind. You bring up an excellent , and very important point!! That said I know, and I hope millions of other people see him not as a reflection on Asians or Asian men but for the evil excuse of a creature that he is. My point is that I pray people are smart enough to know that these evil people soooo do not represent their race and that cruelty and evil deeds are not exclusive to Asian people.
All races had and have their own Kim Song-uns, Mao Zedongs and other evil dictators. But yes, sadly there are still people who associate all Asians with atrocities of the the Vietnam Nam war, N. Korea, and Communist China. My Asians friends hate it, my non-Asian friends and I dismiss it as the ignorance that it is. You made a very good point!! It really just depends on the culture immersion people have experienced.
Women who talk to me and want to know me, have experienced having asian friends or being interested with the culture at some point. None of us want to be rejected for any reason.
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People like the latter have to be crazy-insecure to think like that to begin with. As I said before I agree that a lot of Asian men are unaware that most white women are just as attracted to them as we are to any other race. If she responds, ask her out. Walk, skate, see an art exhibit, browse in s book store or just get coffee or tea? And I want s full report!! Thanks for the uplifting comments, Leigh. She was impressed that I had the cahones to sing in a sports bar on a Saturday night karaoke without being drunk haha.
The problem is not that asian men think they are uglier. It is because the majority of them focus on hard work not looks and thus LOOK uglier. Fuck off, you White racist cunt! I found this article way late but thanks for using my video as an example! No big thing but wanted you to know James: Seriously though, I hope you and this lass hit it off and whatever happens, that you remain friends.
I am a white girl and I have to say, I have a habit of only wanting to date Asian guys. I just tend to meet cool ones. Yeah, not many girls in my area I see seem to be interested in asian guys unless if he is wealthy and has status and somewhat attractive.
Most of the interracial couples I see are white men with asian women, very rarely asian men with white women. For them, wealth takes priority over substance. Your post made me consider why Asians in general are stereotyped. Having lived, worked, etc. Asian and every other culture werecompletely excluded from the curriculum. Be patient, educate people just by being who you are, and trust that things are changing for the better.
I wish someday there would be a cool asian pop icon again in America like Bruce Lee and Brandon Lee…makes me sad Hollywood filmmakers are not trying at all. I wondered why that is? Also, I realize now that many Asian men have this false belief that attractive Caucasian females will not date them. If you happen to like a pretty Caucasian girl I recommend you get to know her and then let her know you like her. Once you get to know her you can determine if she is open minded. First off, if you honestly think you have no chance then you really have no chance.
Another interesting thing to note though is some white girls prefer Asian men so they are probably less fixated on height. They tend to like Asian culture things like anime, kpop, bubba tea, cosplay, martial arts and so on. The prettiest girl in my school liked modern japanese fashion and dated an Asian guy. A lot of these girls are nice and cute but some are too obsessive so just ignore those ones. Also, how do people block you? Height is just perception and I think it is just opportunity to test out own insecurity.
If you worry about height, then you just miss your chance to get to know or date that person. I enjoy your feed back Victoria. I agree with what you said above. Thanks Bruce, I agree with you too. Thankfully in the modern world individuals living in diverse environments, as I have, and introduction to other media online are less effected. Still, the best way to make someone less effected by stereotypes they have of you is becoming friends or more with them. I became friends with an Asian guy recently who interjected into a conversation I was having with a girl in my class.
Life is funny like that. You never know if the girl you like might end up liking you back in the future after getting to know you. However, the chances are significantly higher if you say hello rather than do nothing because you think you have no chance. I prefer to be asked out by people who became friends with me first. It shows me he cares about my personality and my company, instead of just my appearance. I know a lot of other girls feel this way too.
The key J is to go out and start friendly conversations. I think this is wired in our DNA for survival. The bottom line is, if women were to pick out her man at a social event or some social gathering with lots of guys, she will most likely choose the tall confident guy compared to short confident guy. I never had a girlfriend just some school friends. Some of my female friends did try to hook me up, though I had no interest in any of those girls that my friends were trying to hook me up with, we had absolutely nothing in common.
Why height is so big deal to you? Some women wants sincerely nice but one of kind guy…. Or just because she is bigger than you? If you rely everything on height then you will miss all good things that are happening in between. I mean look at Victoria.. How many woman do you meet someone like her in daily life? They also tend to stay with their ethnicity more than men do.
Also, women tend to stay within her ethnicity more than men do. We only need to find those who accept is, enjoy being with us.
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Why worry too much of some others anyway? And many people are walking by…. Well, I think there already is an unfair disadvantage for asian men especially with media representation. It is what it is. Bruce, what do I do to change it? Allow yourself to be confident. Take Tom Cruise for an example. And none of these women are with him because of his money; they too are very wealthy. Women respond to confidence. More importantly, trust yourself. Also, Bruce Lee played mostly one dimensional characters in the U.
I do have to admit though he did influence a lot and not many people know it. Before he died, he was working on a script called The Silent Flute which was later changed to Circle of Iron and Kung Fu Panda animated movie paid homage to his story besides Game of Death. His son Brandon who had more of a multi-dimensional character in the Crow movie might have been able to make it in Hollywood but Brandon looks mostly white so he can get away with it.
Bruce, I was just being realistic. Realistically speaking, most asians in the U. Some white men are also equally attractive but I feel like asian men take care of themselves more asian men from asian countries at least. The media does influence too many people. Anyone with half a-brain will see these absurd images for what they are. And remember, the media can only influence those who allow themselves too be led.
It truly is a choice. Look at THEM for what they are. They are not real, you. They only have the power that you give them. Choose to diminish them with a dose of reality. Yeah I agree… The best thing for us Asian man may be just to be totally opposite of stereotype. Just ourselves…thank you Elle… You are sweet.. Many hugs to you! I do daily… Every day… Every moment …. Out of curiosity I went platinum blond a few years ago and while it was an interesting experience, everyone I know told me they were glad I returned to my natural color because the blond looked nice but my natural color was twice as nice.
I have very light skin, not black but very dark, waist length brown hair and green eyes -the antithesis of the aryan standard of female beauty. I keep my hair health and shiny and emphasize the contrast between my light skin and dark hair. And I do it for me. Even with cosmetic surgery in the end, gravity will triumph!! Aaaaaall of that said, sorry! Rock on Asian dudes! You bet, and you nailed it! I began to say it, think it and then to believe it. As someone pointed out we can only maintain these truths by working at it everyday.
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Why stereotype women as much as you dislike when they do that to you anyway. The only person you can change is yourself. Being comfortable and confident sometime important to attract women. I know you are keep putting yourself into those circle that you are hoping to change. If you are true realist then you need to work on something and anything. Your eyes may be open but you have to keep your heart open as well. Be a man all you can be, not just follow someone just because they say so…. I appreciate your advice and encouragement for all of us Asian men.
You stay true to yourself and stay beautiful as you are. All you say is true. But I agree with you. J I wanted to add a thought about Bruce Lee. You know, I think Bruce Lee actually did make it in Hollywood. They made a huge mistake with Bruce and I believe they regretted it. Elle, Bruce Lee never really made it in Hollywood, he died too soon. A lot of people wanted to take up martial arts from all over the U. Also, he forced himself to work in Hong Kong to be a star in Asia and he did end up being a star in Asia and eventually getting noticed in the U. Believe it or not. There are plenty of white women who are married to East Asian guys especially Korean and Japanese American guys.
Just look at the US Census stats, 1 out 3 of those guys are married to white women, for those born or raised in America. I also have two Korean American friends married to white women. We have the pretties kids. Wives are hot too. Dont let the media perpetuate this lie.
I did have more time when I was younger but I was never asked to hang out. Hey J, after writing the comment below, and I read your comment here, I feel a bit sorry for what you said here. If you already have a good job and all that, maybe you should focus on making yourself more interesting or just being yourself in general. My ex was not interested in tall, rich Asian guy, but she was really attractive. Dating a white woman is nothing hard. The problem is the language barrier, not the race. Now if only I can speak English like a native.. But then, most of the white women are unattractive and fat to my eyes.
I mean, too big. Owen, I notice there are quite a few chubby white women as well but there are quite a few chubby women of all races. Some common popular characters like Charlie Chan, Mr. They literally have a bigger bone structure than most Asian men, including myself. Still, because we Asian men have those stereotypes to get over to have a relationship with white women, we just have to try extra harder to be unique, to understand white culture, or to be attractive in general.
If you think about it, the motivation for a Asian man wanting to date a white woman is not that pretty. Plus, there are few white women who are really open minded to completely different culture and language, even though many of them believe they are well traveled and want to be boastful about it. And now I want someone like Asian American, who understand and connect to my culture, but who are not a white woman at the same time.
I missed the thing I wanted to say. See, I make this kinda mistakes and my argument gets poor when I have to talk in English. Let me know if you want to understand the logic of why it happens. About the language barrier,.. And of course, I know there are other factors that play a role.
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Michelle Wie is tall and so are her parents. I think a lot of white girls are sort of afraid to date asian guys because of their short height. I think it would be nice if this site offered some feature like some online dating site….. Asian men belongs to Asian women plain and simple some Asian guys just want to show off if they can get some blonde white girl. Mark, no, not all asian americans are in an environment with other asians, where did you come up with that theory? The only other asian in my high school growing up was my brother.
There were no other asians in my high school or in my town. Hi Mark, I understand what you are saying but it is really negative and quite offensive. Especially to myself when I am dating an Asian. I would be extremely upset if any friend, family member or stranger, disapproved or made comments about our relationship. This is just as offensive as saying that Caucasian men should be with Caucasian women.
People want who they want and they can chase any girl they desire. Personality always wins in the end. I am an Australian 24 year old woman with German ancestry and I have always been attracted to Asian men. Growing up I was originally interested in the Korean and Japanese culture as I played video games a lot and was fascinated with the romance that entailed in games such as Final Fantasy. I then travelled to Thailand and their culture also intrigued me as much as Japan and Korea.
I now have been in a relationship with a half Filipino-half Australian for six years — although, when we travel around Asia, people believe he is Thai or Balinese so he does have a strong Asian look which is not traditionally the Filipino look. My love for the Asian culture could be due to the fact that Australian men tend to lack the confidence to show their true feelings towards women and are always trying to act masculine, so personally, I have always craved men that were a bit more feminine and in touch with their sensitive side.
In addition, I have noticed how uncommon Asian men and Caucasian women are and when my boyfriend and I travel, we receive many stares and comments — all positive. In summary, all of the Asian cultures vary so much but I do find similarities in their respect to women, their respect to their families and their general positive perspective on life.
One of the reasons why your experience with your asian boyfriend was negative in Australia and probably some parts of the U. One time when we were waiting in line for coffee, this old white guy looked at us in shock. I keep reading that white women are attracted to asian men and yet on dating apps and websites like Tinder, OKCupid, POF, we never seem to get dates or even responses. If white women are indeed attracted to asian men, why is it that we are having such a hard time on those services?
It works both ways, really, and it kinda sucks.
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Looks can fool us in many ways…. I have tried online dating site myself. I have made many long distance friends than actually meeting anyone. They only work with whatever effort you put into it. I have tried online dating myself which attracted many but very distant and many different type of women as well. Bruce, well yeah of course, and the more professional your profile looks, the better chances you have than not at all. So let me take a little poll.. Women who responded or will be looking at this, where are you located? Toronto is super diverse and has everything yet it feels so cold, unapproachable and need I say again prejudice.
Man buns and tattoos are bonuses. I work in construction, drive a lifted Jeep not trying to fit in, I just love them! Oddly enough, for being a tiny place, we are extremely accepting of at form of diversity. I moved about twenty minutes from there, where it is more diverse, and I love it. Brianna, what do you mean by awkward? Like you wear really weird clothes or your hairstyle is really weird or something? There are beauty tips on youtube like Michelle Phan. Be honest to yourself and with yourself. Just be around where there are a lot of people. I know it sucks not many girls in America are attracted to Asian men.
Your comment is ignorant and generalised that all asian men that complain are just excuse makers but some actually try! They are just born ugly and feel like to be the self is nott to drastical ly change their looks. Thanks to Elle specifically, good to see a real person on here.
I have not met one white girl that has told me that other white girls like Asian men. I have so many white males talk to me. Heck, most of my friends are white. We looked at each other, bewildered. Usually, we were only asked this after cashiers had mistakenly rung up our orders separately under the assumption that we were not together. We looked back at the employee.
He was a young Asian guy, probably a college student, with an eager look on his face. I buried myself in my phone, as I figured I knew where this line of questioning was about to go and it made me feel a little awkward. My husband excused himself from the impromptu interview and left to grab a table while I finished up my order.
The employee, still grinning from ear to ear, continued to ask me questions. I heard that kids sometimes cause problems for the husband and wife. He gave me our sandwiches, his eyes twinkling. I thanked him and sat down, relieved. For once, I avoided the seemingly inescapable pressure that comes with being an idea. My husband giggled throughout the meal, tickled by the exchange. Do you think we made his day? We finished our meal and left, but not before the employee went out of his way to bid us one last farewell.
The symbolic first step forward out of my rut a success, we decided to head home. He played video games, I worked. Every conversation up until that point inevitably turned to praising me for choosing an Asian man and exalting my husband for somehow achieving the impossible in snagging a White woman. In our attempts to understand some of the most simple things in life, we sometimes make them more complex. Asian women want the freedom to date whomever they choose, while Asian men want to be seen as desirable romantic partners. Both sides accuse each other of White worship, and both sides resent being passed over for a White person.
As a Mormon, if I had married a Mormon man, I fear he may expect me to act a certain way or to live a certain lifestyle. I can empathize with the Asian man who has been told he is inadequate due to his stature, his features… his race. Instead, I believe he reacted that way to us because he saw that an Asian man had overcome his potential insecurities to find someone. The hope that maybe — just maybe — someone would want to be with him.